Thursday, September 13, 2012

Death of a student

This has been the most horrible week in a teachers life.  I went to school on Thursday of last week all happy and ready to work.   One of my students stopped me to let me know I had to go to another teachers room because she was crying over a student.  I ran to her room to find out that one of my guys who I have taught for the last 3 years passed away the night before.  We do not know anything and won't for a while.  

I had to call in all of my students who were his friends and break the news to them.   Over 20 kids sat in stunned silence for over an hour.  I had to take a couple of boys out of the room so they could cry on my shoulder because they don't cry in front of friends.   My students were so upset.  I had several who stayed in the classroom we designated as the grief room for 2 days.  I had to make them go to class on Monday because they had to get back into the routine.

On Tuesday, I gave a class on etiquette for the visitation and funeral.  I wanted my kids to know what to expect.  The school was wonderful.  They provided a bus for us to take over 50 kids to the funeral.  Visitation was HARD!!!    Saying goodbye to him was horrible.   Luckily, Mark went with me and it was a good thing.  He had to hold me up at one point because I just couldn't stand.  I am going to miss this young man so much.  He was just a tender hearted  guy who befriended everyone!!!

The funeral was terrible but our kids did amazing!!!  They came in and was very respectful of the service.  They helped each other out by rubbing a crying classmates shoulder or pulling them close so the could cry on their shoulder.  I couldn't listen to the funeral because I was too focused on my kids.  I had to move around a bit to pull some of them close.

When we got back to the school,  I kept 12 kids with me and we just blew bubbles, drew, and listened to our IPODS.  

I am so tired,  I haven't had a chance to breathe yet.  I am taking the day off work tomorrow because I am just emotionally exhausted.


Monique said...

It is so sad when someone young leaves this world. Most of the time it makes one upset to wonder why they didn't get a chance to do all the things that they were suppossed to do. But luckily we all eventually heal and things get a bit easier.

cucki said...

it is a very sad news..thinking of the sweet girl so much.
love xxx

Tracey said...

How horrible Vickie! Praying for you and your students, and the boy's family. What a tragic loss. (((HUGS)))

Vicky L said...

I am so sorry to hear about this tragic loss. You have been in my thoughts and prayers this past week and will continue do so.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a child is the hardest thing I am told. Just rest & take it easy tomorrow.
Betty in AZ (ILCS)

Anne said...

So sorry to hear about your student passing away. As a teacher too I know how attached you can be with the kids you teach. My heart goes out to her family and to you.